Coaching

coaching contractI recently had a great meeting with other coaches to discuss contracting. We had a great time discussing the ins and outs of creating clear agreements/contracts.

The first step in this process is to create the ambience for a professional conversation. Remind yourself and the coachee that you are there as a professional coach (vs. confidant) and that you have 30 minutes (45 minutes max)  for the session. Your main goal as a coach is to assist the coachee to gain insight on the issue at hand rather than resolving the issue.

Take a moment to create rapport (chit chat) then invite the coachee to the coaching conversation by asking them what they would like to focus on for the next 30 minutes. They will make a statement and your job is to obtain clarity or understanding of what the statement means to the coachee i.e. invite further details of what success will look like at the end of the 30 minutes.

Now you are ready to move forward with the session – state your understanding of what the client’s focus is and ask for confirmation. Moving into the coaching session, ask questions that focus on WHO the client is or will be in this situation.  Think of yourself as an Insight Producer rather than friend or confidant, hold the client's feet to the fire and support them in being all that they can be. Resolving the issue will make a difference in the moment, identifying and supporting growth will last a lifetime.

The coachee expects your strength and courage in speaking the truth as you hear it. Having a clear contract/agreement will produce greater results for your clients and a lot less frustration for you.  Katelyn said it best in her notes from the discussion ‘Contracting is a client need.”

If you feel exhausted at the end of your coaching sessions, you probably have not set a good contract.  Practice some on these tips and do let me know what is happening with your coaching sessions.

I love feedback. Have a great week!!

Frustrated man at a desk

All of us need space to vent, express our frustrations, get things off our chests. There is no better place to do this than with your coach.

Your coaching experience is based in truth and acceptance so why not let it all hang out…. I say, invite the clients to ‘Go For It.’  I can sense a feeling of panic coming from you as you read these statements so allow me to give you the tools to allow you to make this an effortless part of your coaching conversation.

Introduce your clients to the BMW moment… (B—tch, Moan and Whine). You as the Coach are the expert listener so instead of getting caught up in the client’s story, give them a moment to share and then ‘ do the work.’

When your client goes off on a tangent of negative information, first acknowledge that you sense frustration and anger (or whatever it is you hear.)  Acknowledging and naming the situation will take off some of the heat from the client’s sharing. Then invite them to a 5 minute BMW opportunity. Set a timer or watch your clock for 5 minutes and let them dump whatever is happening. Once they are done, again acknowledge that you can hear that this is a big deal for them. Inquire if this is what they would like to work on in their session and then…..‘Who’ they want to be in this situation? What are they learning about themselves and their reactions in this scenario?

Remember that you as the coach can only work with the person who is in front of you in the present moment,  the story about all that is happening is the cover up for the real truth for the coachee…. If you offer questions with “who’ and ‘you’ in them, you bring the learning in the present and support deeper understanding and future growth. Reflect what you hear by ‘noticing’ i.e. being the objective eyes and ears for the client.

Keeping the coachee grounded in the present will also make your job easier BECAUSE….. the client is doing the work and you are doing the listening.  Now, doesn’t that sound like fun?

Enjoy your week!!

Coaching has become a common term, but all coaches aren't alike. Credentialed coaches have undergone rigorous training, training aimed at transforming each client. Master Coaches ask the questions you are afraid to ask yourself. They create the safe place for discussion and introspection, from which the butterfly emerges and true lasting success begins.

What can you expect when working with a credentialed coach?

1. A champion and partner in your success

Coaches hold your dreams and ambitions in a position of honor. When you are too deep in the trenches to remember why you're there, trust your coach to remind you, "You're closer to your dream than you think."

A coach will support your every step as you uncover the path to your personal definition of success.